Its About Both of You. »
If relationships are about compromise, what exactly is it costing you to talk to your girlfriend every day? That’s right. Nothing. The only thing it’s costing you is “being right”. And that’s where most couples stumble. We want to be right. We want to tell our partners how it is – what we do,…
Branching from this…
For a large portion of my life, I truly believed that a relationship is two whole pieces to one big puzzle. I truly believed that in order to have that “magic” you find in the movies, you had to be your own person. And while this is all true when you’re starting out, things will start to change. When you get INTO the relationship, you need to be reassured of yourself. When you are just starting out, you need to make sure you’re going into this relationship for the right reasons. There needs to be certainty that this next relationship is NOT rebounding, is NOT settling, nor anything less of something you could see a future with. That’s where it starts.
However, when you continue into an actual relationship, you can’t just be that independent person anymore. Now, this relationship is about the both of you. You can’t be selfish and think you can do your own thing without the littlest chance the other might be thinking of you. The both of you being considerate of the other person is necessary to make it work, whether it’s a simple text or maybe a simple phone call. On the other hand, you can go through the phases of being guarded, playing it safe, and never really knowing if it could have been great. A great relationship is one that moves you to explore things about yourself, encourages you to better yourself, and help shape you into the best version of yourself. Although you think it’s about you, it affects the both of you.
Being considerate in a relationship should come naturally because we care about the significant other, but we get wrapped up in the daily hustle of our own lives, that we forget that there’s now an extra person in your life that is constantly thinking of you. Remember when we were little, our parents were always worrying about us because they loved us. Ha, even to this day, they still do but they have the right to be uncertain about our health until we become adults and show we can take care of ourselves. This is where it parallels with relationships, like stated in the post above, UNTIL you are married, your significant other has the RIGHT to be uncertain about the health of the relationship and about you and this relationship; therefore wanting that security from you: the phone calls, the text messages, the simple gestures.
A relationship is about two people, who can be completely different, completely independent, putting forth efforts to make the same thing work, coming together to depend on the other to come through. Although you believe you’re this independent person, you actually really have to give a part of yourself to make it work. You need to have trust. That part of you that you give away, heck, ANY PART OF YOU that you give away is not easy. So you must have trust. Trust that this relationship you have WILL work. You really have to give a part of yourself, and risk your heart getting hurt. Why? Because otherwise you might lose out. You might lose out on something amazing. In order to win big, you have to bet big. In betting big, there’s only big risk. What’s the point otherwise? What makes true love great is that there aren’t many chances at finding it. The chances of you finding it are million to a lonely one.
In the end, give a part of yourself, but do not lose yourself. Do not lose that person you came into this relationship as along the way. Why? Because when you come out of the relationship, you will see that, that person is not the same and to see the transformation is crucial. You just gave a piece of yourself, your life, your time, and your heart to someone and you will never get it back. But that’s okay. It’s okay because you felt what it was like to be apart of something real. And if you don’t, its probably because you didn’t give a part of yourself, but if you did, you WILL appreciate what you have been through. You become this stronger person, rather than this weaker person.
We are human beings. We long for companionship. We strive to be apart of something. It’s always those who are alone who are the unhappiest. It’s human nature. Heck, it’s just nature. And you were just following what your body/heart/instincts told you. And it was to take this chance to be apart of something that can change you from that day forward. So please, step down from that high pedastal and realize, this relationship isn’t about JUST you, it’s about the both of you. Once you have that figured out, you have IT figured out.
Love Always.
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